Thanks everyone, for your kind words. It means more than you know.
Now Roger's family and friends are left with the monumental question of Why?
Certainly divorce is painful, but he never gave a warning, never let on that his situation was THAT desperate. The last time I saw him, 2 weeks ago, he said "Why don't you come over? It gets kind of lonely around here at night." He said it rather casually, but now that simple statement haunts me. Just how lonely can a person be?
And if it meant that much to him, why did HE start the divorce proceedings? His wife didn't want a divorce, she wanted to work things out. But Roger said he'd been through that before, and it wasn't gonna work.
So now I'm a pallbearer for a friend who by all rights should have lived another 40 years.